You asked me the other day, “Why is all this happening to me”? I didn’t have an answer then and I still don’t know why problems surround you. Maybe it’s just life or maybe it’s an attitude or maybe God is working on you through your problems. I heard an interesting discussion between authors John Maxwell and Joyce Meyer in 2007 that helped me; maybe it will help you too.
The highlights were that keeping a good attitude is a matter or perspective and focus.
We must focus our attention on positive issues and keep our faith in God in the forefront of our minds. No matter what, God is still in charge.
There are five (5) obstacles to having a good attitude, five (5) things that hold us back:
1. Discouragement 2. Change 3. Problems 4. Fear and 5. Failure
But these five obstacles can be overcome. Look at the word “Problem” for help in overcoming all these nasty thoughts, feelings and ideas.
P: Predictors, how we handle problems show our character.
R: Reminders, life is tough and everyone has problems.
We need God, Grace, Family & Friends.
O: (Problems are) Opportunities to make us better people.
B: Blessings, tremendous growth and change can happen in the midst of a problem.
L: Lessons, problems teach us something.
E: Everywhere, everyone has problems.
M: Messages, problems may be a signal to us…
Especially if it’s the same problem over and over again.
S: Solvable: Every miracle in the Bible begins with a problem.
Ok, now we can move onto understanding that some people are problem carriers. Problems can make us or break us. They can make us go up or maybe even go under. Your attitude is the difference maker.
Failure is NOT a big problem in resolving an ongoing issue. You haven’t failed unless you STOP trying. Failing is a part of life… it’s also a part of success… Instead of failing backward we need to fall forward! When we fail, we keep going, no-one enjoys failing~ yet we all fail.
Here’s four (4) facts about failure:
1. We all do it.
2. No-one enjoys it.
3. It’s not final.
4. But what failure does mean is that we need a change.
When we fail, we need to change. We need to back up, look up (pray) and move-up (go forward)
We can learn from that failure or we can leave (run from) failure. When we run from failure we never learn from it. Sometimes failure requires getting good people to help us work through our problems.
Successful people have more failure in their lives than unsuccessful people because they try more. Most times when people fail they say to themselves, “I’ll never do that again…” And that is a self-limiting statement. Thomas Edison tried over 2000 experiments before he discovered electricity. He wasn’t 1999 times a failure… he was 1999 times closer to the discovery of his lifetime.
We need to learn from something instead of shutting it off.
We limit ourselves and our potential.
We are a prisoner of our spirit and attitude. Nobody shut the door on us and locked us in; we did it all to ourselves. We threw the key away, handcuffed ourselves and said, “Poor me… this is my plight in life”…
No matter what kind of attitude you have today, these five (5) things (discouragement, change, problems, fear and failure) have the OPPORTUNITY to lift us our and overcome all our problems.
Discouraged people simply lost perspective and focus. We need to have an attitude that helps us look beyond ourselves.
What we do need to do is find balance.
There’s a balance between focusing our attitude on our problems to resolve them and knowing when it is important to finally shut the door and walk away.
No-one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is selfish and focusing everything on themselves. Drama Kings and Queens turn everyone off.
Sometimes when people are dragging you off in the wrong direction you have to turn your back and get away from them (Read Mark 8:33).
When we are selfish people; the devil can work through us to hurt other people, to pressure other people and bring added stress into their lives.
It’s an awfully hard job to make someone happy who already made up their mind that they are not going to be happy.
We need to stop thinking that we have a vote on everything God asks us to do. We can overcome our problems and come out the other side victorious.
Remember that resolving a problem usually involves change; look within.
The Sun Never Sets On The British Welfare System
by Ann Coulter
Those of you following the barbaric rioting in Britain will not have failed to notice that a sizable proportion of the thugs are white, something not often seen in this country.
Not only that, but in a triumph of feminism, a lot of them are girls. Even the “disabled” (according to the British benefits system) seem to have miraculously overcome their infirmities to dash out and steal a few TVs.
Congratulations, Britain! You’ve barbarized your citizenry, without regard to race, gender or physical handicap!
With a welfare system far more advanced than the United States, the British have achieved the remarkable result of turning entire communities of ancestral British people into tattooed, drunken brutes.
I guess we now have the proof of what conservatives have been saying since forever: Looting is a result of liberal welfare policies. And Britain is in the end stages of the welfare state.
In 2008, a 9-year-old British girl, Shannon Matthews, disappeared on her way home from a school trip. The media leapt on the case — only to discover that Shannon was one of seven children her mother, Karen, had produced with five different men.
The first of these serial sperm-donors explained: “Karen just goes from one bloke to the next, uses them to have a kid, grabs all the child benefits and moves on.”
Poor little Shannon eventually turned up at the home of one of her many step-uncles — whose ex-wife, by the way, was the mother of six children with three different fathers.
(Is Father’s Day celebrated in England? If so, how?)
The Daily Mail (London) traced the family’s proud Anglo ancestry of stable families back hundreds of years. The Nazi war machine couldn’t break the British, but the modern welfare state has.
A year earlier, in 2007, another product of the new order, Fiona MacKeown, took seven of her eight children (by five different fathers) and her then-boyfriend, on a drug-fueled, six-month vacation to the Indian island of Goa. The trip was paid for — like everything else in her life — with government benefits.
(When was the last time you had a free, six-month vacation? I’m drawing a blank, too.)
While in Goa, Fiona took her entourage on a side-trip, leaving her 15-year-old daughter, Scarlett Keeling, in the capable hands of a 25-year-old local whom Scarlett had begun sleeping with, perhaps hoping to get a head-start on her own government benefits. A few weeks later, Scarlett turned up dead, full of drugs, raped and murdered.
Scarlett’s estranged stepfather later drank himself to death, while her brother Silas announced on his social networking page: “My name is Si, n I spend most my life either out wit mates get drunk or at partys, playing rugby or going to da beach (pretty s**t really).”
It’s a wonder that someone like Silas, who has never worked, and belongs to a family in which no one has ever worked, can afford a cellphone for social networking. No, actually, it’s not.
Britain has a far more redistributive welfare system than France, which is why France’s crime problem is mostly a matter of Muslim immigrants, not French nationals. Meanwhile, England’s welfare state is fast returning the native population to its violent 18th-century highwaymen roots.
Needless to say, Britain leads Europe in the proportion of single mothers and, as a consequence, also leads or co-leads the European Union in violent crime, alcohol and drug abuse, obesity and sexually transmitted diseases.
But liberal elites here and in Britain will blame anything but the welfare state they adore. They drone on about the strict British class system or the lack of jobs or the nation’s history of racism.
None of that explains the sad lives of young Shannon Matthews and Scarlett Keeling, with their long English ancestry and perfect Anglo features.
Democrats would be delighted if violent mobs like those in Britain arose here — perhaps in Wisconsin! That would allow them to introduce yet more government programs staffed by unionized public employees, as happened after the 1992 L.A. riots and the 1960s race riots, following the recommendations of the Kerner Commission.
MSNBC might even do the unthinkable and offer Al Sharpton his own TV show. (Excuse me — someone’s trying to get my attention … WHAT?)
Inciting violent mobs is the essence of the left’s agenda: Promote class warfare, illegitimate children and an utterly debased citizenry.
Like the British riot girls interviewed by the BBC, the Democrats tell us “all of this happened because of the rich people.”
We’re beginning to see the final result of that idea in Britain. The welfare state creates a society of beasts. Meanwhile, nonjudgmental elites don’t dare condemn the animals their programs have created.
Rioters in England are burning century-old family businesses to the ground, stealing from injured children lying on the sidewalks and forcing Britons to strip to their underwear on the street.
I keep reading that it’s because they don’t have jobs — which they’re obviously anxious to hold. Or someone called them a “kaffir.” Or their social services have been reduced. Or their Blackberries made them do it. Or they disapprove of a referee’s call in a Manchester United game.
A few well-placed rifle rounds, and the rioting would end in an instant. A more sustained attack on the rampaging mob might save England from itself, finally removing shaved-head, drunken parasites from the benefits rolls that Britain can’t find the will to abolish on moral or utilitarian grounds. We can be sure there’s no danger of killing off the next Winston Churchill or Edmund Burke in these crowds.
But like Louis XVI, British authorities are paralyzed by their indifference to their own civilization. A half-century of berating themselves for the crime of being British has left them morally defenseless. They see nothing about England worth saving, certainly not worth fighting for — which is fortunate since most of their cops don’t have guns.
This is how civilizations die. It can happen overnight, as it did in Revolutionary France. If Britain of 1939 were composed of the current British population, the entirety of Europe would today be doing the “Heil Hitler” salute and singing the “Horst Wessel Song.”